3 results for tag: Physical Attractiveness


Self-Perception: Beth

It was 1993 and I had recently moved to a new area of New Jersey where I knew few people. We were both attending meetings of the same self-help group. It had been six months since the first time I saw Beth. I fell for her before she even opened her mouth. She was soft, warm and genuine in her walk and demeanor. When she opened her mouth to speak, there were no more questions, I wanted to get to know her. Thew only thing between Beth and I was self-perception, mine. Self-Perception and Shyness A common trait for me then and now, is being shy and intimidated by women I find attractive. Besides the obvious challenge of shyness, I would behave differe...

Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome – Curse, Blessing or Both?

As a teenage boy, I was completely convinced every "pretty girl" had the perfect life. All they had to do was smile. I was not an attractive teen and felt cheated by life. Little did I know about this thing called the Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome. The drop dead gorgeous syndrome is when a super attractive women loses herself and becomes addicted to and enslaved by her physical appearance. Her identity is dependent on what we think of the way she looks at any given time, not her achievements, intelligence, character, talents or sense of Self. I will not lie, I hated drop dead gorgeous girls when I was younger. It is an embarrassing admission but real. I was jealous, and felt like I had no chance to ever be with one of the "pretty girls" and this made me feel less masculine. Fortunately, I do not feel this way today. The following experience is based on a real event that happened many years ago. I have altered some facts to hide the identity of the woman involved out of respect for her and her privacy....

Does Kindness Make You More Attractive? Research Says Yes!

I suspect that all counselors and therapists know that kindness makes you more attractive. It is helpful to see research that supports this premise. The research itself is limited but still has merit. On a personal level, I think I have always sensed that those who express positive character traits, seem more attractive if for no other reason than I find anger, dishonesty and hate unattractive....