9 results for tag: Preparing for First Date


Dating Through Gottman Principles

Imagine everybody dating through Gottman Principles. What would it feel like to be and connect with people safely as authentic selves? Dating through Gottman Principles offers opportunities for connection, comfort, and a chance to get to know each other slowly and safely. I support the author's perspective of dating through Gottman principles, including meeting in real life soon after matching. Real life offers the nearness to explore chemistry, to feel the connection and energy, and your physical presence. Whether you are single, couples, or practicing ethical non-monogamy, Gottman Card Decks are a fun way to discover all kinds of interesting and juicy aspects of your date! They also make an app for your phone or tablet as well. Dating through Gottman Principles supports connection, intimacy, and safety in all stages of relationships. The work I do with couples is loosely based on Gottman Principles. To find out more about The Gottman Method....

Do I Need to Heal Before Dating Again?

Do I need to heal before dating again? When is the right time to start dating again after a relationship? And, is the answer different if one is deciding whether they are ready to date or whether they are ready to get into a relationship again?  These are not simple questions to answer, nor are they the same for each one of us. For me, there are five essential questions to answer before dating again. ...

Self-Perception: Beth

It was 1993 and I had recently moved to a new area of New Jersey where I knew few people. We were both attending meetings of the same self-help group. It had been six months since the first time I saw Beth. I fell for her before she even opened her mouth. She was soft, warm and genuine in her walk and demeanor. When she opened her mouth to speak, there were no more questions, I wanted to get to know her. Thew only thing between Beth and I was self-perception, mine. Self-Perception and Shyness A common trait for me then and now, is being shy and intimidated by women I find attractive. Besides the obvious challenge of shyness, I would behave differe...

A Social Experiment in First Impressions

I thought this was an interesting social experiment in first impressions. I do not think it proves anything but interesting still. It is fun watching the different responses people have as they interpret characteristics of people based on little more than first impressions. I think it would be fun to conduct a similar experiment with a variable that isn't part of a marketing campaign....

Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series – Conscious Coupling

Conscious coupling seems to be getting a lot of press these days, celebrities tend to make this sort of thing happen - Madonna at The Kabbalah Centre and Julia Roberts with Hindu are examples of when they speak openly about religion or spirituality. I am not sure why this happens, but it does. I have never seen celebrities as people I wanted to be like, at least not those in the entertainment industry. Growing-up, there were many athletes that gave their time to worthy causes that I looked-up to for that reason int e 60's and 70's. I have never felt drawn to the fact that "so and so" said something, means it is something important or of value. Although it does seem that Richard Gere My Journey with Buddhism has really committed to the study and practice of Tibetan Buddhism without making it feel like a publicity stunt. I happened to be participating in the Kalachakra with The Dalai Llama back in 2000 with Richard Gere and other famous people present for the ten days of spiritual training. They all kept a low profile with no autographs or photos, just like everyone else receiving the training....

Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series – Mindful Dating

What is mindful dating? Mindful dating is bringing all of you to the present, including your Highest Self, to dating. Dating is often thought of as an exercise in wanting to convince someone you are good enough for them, what if we flipped this around to say, "I want to bring all of me to dating and see if we are going to be a sensational down the road after we get to know each other, not just during the honeymoon phase of dating?" What would that feel like for you? ...

Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series – Who Am I?

In the last segment in the Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series, we discussed that your best foot forward is to be yourself.  So you’ve decided you want to show-up on a date as yourself, “just being you”. The next task in being you is to figure out, Who Am I?  Unfortunately, most of us don’t know who we are....