8 results for tag: Sex Health


What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy? A Beginners Guide

What is ethical non-monogamy or consensual non-monogamy, and what is not ethical non-monogamy? Ethical non-monogamy is when a couple mutually decides adding other lovers, or romantic or sexual partners to their existing relationship. I want to be clear, ethical non-monogamy is NOT having an affair or one night stand(s) without having your partner's consent and support IN ADVANCE. Since the author of the article below explores what ethical non-monogamy is, I will primarily focus on what it is not. Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) Is Not: Being attracted to someone else and pressuring or manipulating your partner into you being with someone else ...

Arguments About $ Aren’t About Money

Arguments. The first time I meet a new couple that I am working with, I ask them to each share why they are here today. Almost without exception, they each launch into a one-sided description of a recent argument telling it solely from their perspective. In their minds, they are seeking relationship counseling because of an argument or arguments. I ask a few more questions to get a greater understanding of their current challenges. Most of the time, they continue to refer back to the argument or arguments previously mentioned. I will follow that up with a question similar to this, "So if I am hearing you correctly, you are here because of an argument or arguments, not due to a lack of trust, connection, respect, communication, commitment, safety, and/or intimacy?". Arguments About $ Aren't About Money - Michael Swerdloff - Providence Holistic Counselor, Coach & Reiki ...

Trauma Is Not Your Fault, But Healing Is Your Responsibility

We all come into this life with stuff to unpack and learn.  Some of us have entered life with greater challenges than others.  It can be said that ALL OF US have endured trauma in one form or another. This can mean being neglected as children, being abused as a child, teen or adult, military, sexual assault and rape, alcoholism and drug addiction, poverty, and racial and cultural issues, just to name a few forms of trauma. We all experience these challenges in different ways. It has become very common for self-help and pop psychology "gurus" to present pathology as a singular, logical pattern that explains life experiences through a lens that, in all cases, "this means that" and all people experience "this and that" the same. It is false and damaging to the millions of people who read or hear these claims and wonder why it is not true for them.  We have our shared experiences but in our own unique way. That is one of the joys of being human! No two people experience trauma the same, but there are enough common traits to share and learn from each other and gain support and camaraderie.  I can learn from you and vice-versa.  I remember when my cousin returned from Vietnam; he would not discuss what happened to anyone. Then one day, a friend of his was over, who was also a Vietnam Vet, talked and talked about what he saw and did for hours. We were all surprised after not hearing him speak about it for more than a paragraph after being home for several years.  The same applies to people participating in Twelve-Step or cancer survivors groups. Shared experiences help us feel like we belong and we are not alone. This is important in moving forward through traumatic experiences. ...

Tantra Is NOT Love – Tantra And Sacred Sex

This is a beautifully written essay on Tantra.  I have some experience with Tantra but certainly not a teacher or expert. I have struggled with some Tantra practitioners assuming Tantra, and Sacred Love are the same. This has not felt true to me. This heartfelt dive into the essence of Sacred Love, Sacred Sex, and Tantra is what I have experienced without having the correct words or mastery to express it accurately.
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The Misunderstood Science of Sexual Desire – The Cut


Sex Makes You Beautiful and Healthier

Sex makes you beautiful. Its true, not just a cliché. But the question is why? Why does enjoyable, consensual sex make you even more beautiful?   Sex Makes You Beautiful and Healthier - Providence Holistic Counseling Services - Sex orgasm brain process...

The Number One Reason Most Relationships Struggle

The number one reason most relationships struggle is not lying, cheating, arguing, money, sex, child care or even division of labor. The number one reason most relationships struggle is communication. I know that sounds simple but many couples avoid the important conversations for fear of how their partner will react. Many people struggle with listening, not just so they can give a good reply, listening to actually hear what their partner is saying. ...

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