Being Better Singles Group!
Come join the circle!
What are we doing?
Being Better Singles Group is a group of single people discussing their honest feelings on dating, relationships, drugs, love, sex, money, and work. We’ll pick a topic, trade stories, have a moderated discussion, and maybe scream, cry, or yell (if needed).
We’ll dive in deep and not let fear keep us from expressing who we really are. We’ll explore what makes us amazing and far from amazing, where we need to grow in relationships, what gets in the way of of growing, how to trust ourselves and others and what obstacles get in the way of trust. We’ll find what environments support our safety, and how to set boundaries in those that don’t. Most importantly, we’ll just practice being our authentic selves.
We may include meditation, movement and other practices designed to create clarity, presence and truth. What we do will be guided by what shows up at every session. We will have assignments between sessions to reflect more deeply and practice whatever we worked on together.
Being Better Singles Group will explore experiences particular to being single, whether you want or are ready to start a new relationship, or not. We will discover what excites us and keeps us from meeting people we want to be with.
Being Better Singles Group is NOT intended as a place to meet singles for dating, we want everyone to feel safe being vulnerable.
Why are we gathering?
It doesn’t always feel clear how to be authentic in today’s dating world, so let’s help each other figure it out together. We each have our own definition of what makes an exceptional relationship. I doubt any two of us will define this exactly the same, and that is OK. If we honestly engage in conversation, we have the opportunity to clarify and expand our own definition, and a map to get there. How can we go in the right direction if we don’t know where it is we are headed?
“Being alone does not make a person lonely, but the perception of being alone is what makes one lonely,” Dr. Indra Cidambi.
I think we are all fed up with society’s definition of dating and relationships. Let’s create our own! A way to be that respects all people, including ourselves. We want to do better and be better, but often get tangled up in our own resistance and confusion fueled by doubt and a deep fear of failure. Honesty, humility and belonging can be springboards to moving forward. Have you had enough of trying but not experiencing the level of joy, connection, trust, love and contentment in relationships that you know exists? If this feels true for you, come join the circle!
Who can join Being Better Singles Group?
Anyone who self-identifies as single, and is ready to do the work necessary to be amazing, beautiful and alive. You are welcome because of, and in spite of, who you are and where you have come from. Please do not let gender, race, class, religion, culture, education or any other barriers keep you from being part of this opportunity. You are needed and wanted in our support group. If you are in a committed relationship and your partner doesn’t know you are wanting to join our circle, this is not the right group for you.
When we will get together?
Monthly the Third Monday Night from 6:30 – 8:00 (Eastern Time) on Zoom. Come join the circle.
Is there cash involved?
Yes. We are asking for a sliding scale donation of $25-$50 each support group session. You determine your own rate after an honest assessment of resources. You will never need to justify your contribution. We trust you and want you present!
For more information and to join us, we invite you to contact Michael directly @ michael.swerdloff@gmail.com.
Come complete the circle. This is our time to move forward as individuals and as a group.
Your Facilitator
Michael Swerdloff
I was working as a Retail Store Manager with Radio Shack in 1992 and taking a class at William Paterson University: Introduction To Social Work. One day, a woman was yelling at her son in my store and starting to hit him with great force. It bothered me and I could not figure out what to do. That night in class I asked my professor what she would do in that same situation. She replied flatly, “I would become a Social Worker.” I did. I quit my job of eight years and that’s how this started… sort of.
I’ve been a Social Worker, Counselor, Educator, Community Organizer, Life Coach, Reiki Counselor, Teacher, Mentor, Traditional Usui Reiki Teaching Master and Spiritual Guide ever since. I’ve tried to the point of breaking, to find my way in this world flying solo, it didn’t work. I am not an expert on anything. I have clarity about us humans, and what works and doesn’t, I am not always right, but at least headed in the right direction. I listen a lot and effectively, even though I talk a lot. I’m intense, fun, funny and incredibly resourceful. I’ve survived deserts (The Gobi), addictions (who hasn’t), recovery, therapy (she was persistent), success (professional, personal & spiritual), injury (back, spine), loss (too many to list), gifts (wisdom, intuition, intelligence, creativity) and obstacles (wisdom, intuition, intelligence, creativity, ego, arrogance, ignorance). Still standing. Come stand with me! I’m good at what I do.
The job titles and descriptions change, but my work is the same: listening, sharing, holding, breathing, meditating, laughing, crying and caring.
Come complete the Circle!
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Michael Swerdloff
Providence Holistic Counselor, Coach and Reiki
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