3 results for tag: Dr. John Gottman

What Porcupines Can Teach Us About Making Love

How do we learn about making love? A book, our parents, porn, movies, TV, social media? How about porcupines? This is a hilarious and insightful video and article about relationships, sex, and making love. I will not add anything; please enjoy the video and reflection on making love....

What Are We Fighting For?

What are we fighting for or about? We all need to ask ourselves this question when we conflict with another person, especially a partner or spouse. As a couples and relationship counselor, whenever a couple shares with me about a "fight" they had recently, I often ask them after they have spoken in great detail how their partner was at fault and what they did wrong, "What was the fight about?". Both people start repeating what the other person said and did wrong and how they did it right. The focus is generally on the content rather than what the fight was about....

Dating Through Gottman Principles

Imagine everybody dating through Gottman Principles. What would it feel like to be and connect with people safely as authentic selves? Dating through Gottman Principles offers opportunities for connection, comfort, and a chance to get to know each other slowly and safely. I support the author's perspective of dating through Gottman principles, including meeting in real life soon after matching. Real life offers the nearness to explore chemistry, to feel the connection and energy, and your physical presence. Whether you are single, couples, or practicing ethical non-monogamy, Gottman Card Decks are a fun way to discover all kinds of interesting and juicy aspects of your date! They also make an app for your phone or tablet as well. Dating through Gottman Principles supports connection, intimacy, and safety in all stages of relationships. The work I do with couples is loosely based on Gottman Principles. To find out more about The Gottman Method....