25 results for tag: Respect
The Real Reason Women Leave Men – Trust and Safety
I am not a fan of clickbait headlines. I saw this today on The Good Man Project, and that was enough for me to read it and see if there was substance to the sensationalistic tagline. There is definitely content here worth the time to explore why women leave men. Of course, relationships can be very complicated, and the reason Matthew Fray offers is simplistic but valid and credible. I encourage you to invest the time to read his post on why women leave men.
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... Arguments About $ Aren’t About Money
Arguments. The first time I meet a new couple that I am working with, I ask them to each share why they are here today. Almost without exception, they each launch into a one-sided description of a recent argument telling it solely from their perspective. In their minds, they are seeking relationship counseling because of an argument or arguments.
I ask a few more questions to get a greater understanding of their current challenges. Most of the time, they continue to refer back to the argument or arguments previously mentioned.
I will follow that up with a question similar to this, "So if I am hearing you correctly, you are here because of an argument or arguments, not due to a lack of trust, connection, respect, communication, commitment, safety, and/or intimacy?".
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... Conflict Resolution Workshop – Individuals & Couples!
Bad Words – Not The Ones You May Think
Bad Words. We all use them. Some of us even take pride in the frequency and force of how we use them. But which bad words are actually, well, bad? There are George Carlin's Seven Words You Can't Say on TV. Are they the true bad words?
Each one of us has our own definition of bad words. These inner lists may come from our family, our neighborhood or culture. When I was an English Teacher is in South Korea, I was amazed at how Koreans do not get offended by a kid giving an adult "the middle finger". It happens very regularly. Also fascinating is that Koreans are very offended by the term "crazy". If someone calls someone else "crazy" casually, they ...
The 4 Qualities Of A Conscious Relationship
A few years back I wrote a piece Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series - Conscious Coupling . When I saw the article, which is copied below, The 4 Qualities Of A Conscious Relationship, I thought it was time to add some new content to this conversation on creating positive, lasting relationships. I really appreciate what Shelly Bullard has written, especially the first quality; "The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship - growth comes first." This so important and often overlooked. We are so desperate to make relationships last that we forget that our personal and collective growth as people is an even greater goal. If we grow, our relationship grows, it is inevitable. Many people grow to "save" the relationship. This is courageous but it is an end to a means. We need to grow whether the relationship continues or not.
They Are Real People – Inspiring Video – The Game
They are real people. We are real people. Respect, love, and support are neither foreign nor hard to do. "The Game" is an inspiring video created by One Student. It is awesome to see young people, particularly men, stand up and speak out against sexual assault. This was unheard of when I was a student. The young men who may have wanted to stand were squashed by the bigger, stronger, and/or louder guys. It was disguised as, "Boys will be boys", or pressured into silence by both men and women. These women are real people, not just statistics. It was the "thing" that nobody wanted to discuss, which is how it seemed. I was unaware of anyone willing to have these kinds of discussions, but the crowd I ran with was why I have that perception.
As I reflect on this further, I clearly remember that the African-American college community was active in race, class, and gender conversation regularly. I had several friends within the community and would sometimes be present during these honest and often tense discussions. Real people having real conversations.
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